Ever thought about the root-cause of your low self-confidence?
Because kids have high levels of confidence, I am sure nobody was born with low self-confidence. Well, although there are tons of reasons why a person can be low on confidence but, one reason which is very difficult to decipher is gaslighting.
Never heard of it? Even better then. I am glad I am getting a chance to explain it to you and hope I do a good job at it.
Ever remember someone shunning your ideas, your choices right at the first go? This might seem very normal to you at first but, after continuously experiencing this rejection, you start believing you can never be right and your partner is always right.
This can happen in several types of relations. Most commonly it is seen to exist between a mother and a child or between a couple. In case of a mother-child relation, the mother(may be unknowingly) tells the kid that he/she always does the wrong thing and isn’t good enough to do anything right! These very words can have a deep impact on a kid. It leads it to grow up with that assumption that he/she is not good enough. This may not seem obvious in the childhood, but as you grow up and look back at your childhood days and remember getting scolded at for no reason at all, you might just have received your hint that the other person was gaslighting you.
I know my article isn’t exhaustive enough so as to give you mastery over discerning such relations at first go, but it can help you at least think from that perspective. It can be a step towards gaining your self confidence back.
It’s time to shun those people out of your life who gaslight you. Observe your relations for a period of time and if you find that it’s a toxic relationship which is not helping your self confidence and esteem, quit!
I hope this article gives you an impetus to explore more about this very phenomena and helps you better your life ☺
